So it's over, done; what now? The first thing is to find your way back to you. What makes you a whole person outside of being someone's spouse or partner? I would encourage you to make a list of all the things you want to do. All the things that you would have done if you hadn't been married. Make it your mission to accomplish those things. Do not stop living or doing what you NEED to do for you or your children. My philosophy is this: they haven't stopped and LIFE HASN'T STOPPED because the two of you are no longer married; so why should you? Put a smile on your face, put your best foot foward and keep going. Make your life as full as you can make it. Fill your life with good friends, good food, good music, laughter, creativity, and a good dose of GOD; everything else will fall into place and all will be well.
Put yourself first for a change. If all you've been living for is a husband/wife/partner and children, you've probably lost a good bit of you along the way. Use this time to get reaquainted with you. You may even find out there's new things you want to do or try; new places you want to go, or even start a new career. Again, before you can embark on something new, you must put to rest the past. Do the work inside yourself in order to reestablish peace inside yourself in order to have the courage to do something different. I know for those of you who read my blog, you're going to get tired of this one... but guess what-you can't start putting the pieces back together without FORGIVENESS. As I've said before, I'll be spending a lot of time on forgiveness from here on out; besides, that's how you HEAL.
